Dear internet,
I need to get a few things off my mind regarding some shitty stuff.
Well, first things first, this isn't shitty but scary! I'm getting my tonsils out 2 weeks from today! Gulp. Of course I've read probably every horror story on the internet which makes me want to run screaming from the surgery center but I know it'll be worth it in the long run! If you are uninformed like I previously was, getting tonsils out as an adult sucks. The recovery time is 10-14 days. I have 10 days off to recover (11 counting surgery day). Hopefully it'll happen!
Part two of this. My last couple weeks of work have been nothing short of shitty. I've pretty much dreaded going to work every day. (B, if you're reading this you probably want to stop here.) Basically about 2 weeks ago a co worker --let's call her Cindy Lou--and I got into a small fender bender in the back of the school parking lot. My car has minimal damage (scratches and nicks) and her bumper is cracked on the side. Long story short, I don't think either of us had any chance of seeing each other. At the beginning, she assumed it was my fault; I think that's at least gone. I don't believe it was my fault at all (nor do I think it's hers). So after getting some great cop advice, I was all about filing a police report and washing my hands of it. But of course, it was on private property so that didn't work. After reading for what seems like hundreds of hours every night since then on any internet site that has anything to do with insurance, accidents, Kansas, no-fault states, blah blah blah it seems to me like this is how it would go down. We would both be found 50% at fault since there would be no way to determine it (also looked at as no-fault). That means, you fix yours and I fix mine. Now I am not going to fix mine...so basically an accident is going to get reported on my insurance and my rates will probably go up and I'll get nothing in return. Cindy Lou is a friend of mine, so I am by no means trying to say sorry, screw you, pay for it all and I'll go on my merry way. So, since many/the most common deductible amount is $500, I offered to pay her $250. That would make them (Cindy Lou and her husband--let's call him the Grinch) pay less out of pocket and me not have to file w/ insurance. I know that isn't necessarily win win, but it's about as close to win win as you can get. Yes their insurance would probably go up, but they're replacing the whole front of their car--so at least they'd get something. But the Grinch seems to make the decisions in the family. (Cindy Lou says "That sounds reasonable" until she talks to him.) So now, the solution is their insurance calls my insurance, both companies will probably say they can't determine fault so each person pay for their own (same as above scenario). Again, I am not fixing anything so my rates will just go up for the fun of it and Cindy Lou and the Grinch will owe $250 more out of pocket than they would have. That sounds like lose lose to me. So basically, anytime Cindy Lou turns the corner I want to run the other way. I don't necessarily want to spend time around her right now; but that is impossible. My mom's solution is to say, "Sorry Cindy Lou, I'm not going to give you my insurance info. Tough." Of course, she isn't taking into consideration the possibility of how long Cindy Lou and I might have to work together. (That's where the "Just listen!" title from this post comes from.) So basically it fucking sucks and I have to force a fake smile everytime I turn the corner and Cindy Lou is there when I really just want to pretend we don't know each other.
Thanks for listening internet.
annie kate
6 years ago
I listened too :) I am sorry this has been so frustrating. I think you made the appropriate offer and it is too bad she didn't take you up on it. Your mom is totally wrong though, you have to make nice - the consequences would be too awful, and besides I think you are gonna have to hand over the insurance info... Boo, I know, but I think you are right, it's lose-lose. Too bad she can't make her own decisions.
ReplyDeleteYou did listen. You are a fabulous friend. :)
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